Updated February 11, 2019
My three kids mean the world to me, and I try to empower them to develop the skills that will enhance their wellbeing. It is equally important that moms also direct our effort towards empowering ourselves so that we may continue to nurture our family. It’s not a selfish act; rather, it is essential self-care.
Self-empowerment is a key part of life if we want to be happy, fulfilled, and successful. When we take the reins, and become a driver instead of a passenger in our own life, we can do anything! As we experience life satisfaction as a result of specific empowering behaviors, we also serve as a positive example for our children to follow.
There are 10 behaviors that will empower you and your children:
Keep learning, no matter the reason, subject, or goal. It helps you grow as a person, keeps you productive, allows you to contribute to conversations, and improves brain health. There are plenty of resources online that will allow you to educate yourself for free. Being a life-long learner will foster curiosity in your kids and encourage an eagerness to learn.
- Accept Things You Cannot Change
Too many people try to control things they cannot change, which creates undue stress and frustration. Let those things go, and focus on what you can change, like yourself and your life. You will teach your kids how to adapt to life changes.
- Setting Goals and Taking Action
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins
Setting goals makes you productive and keeps you striving to achieve all your dreams. Personal fulfillment always comes from within, and reaching your full potential and it all begins with setting goals. But, achieving any and all goals requires action.
“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.” – Tony Robbins.
Your children will learn that achievement of goals fuels self-esteem, boosts confidence, and brings ultimate satisfaction and happiness!
When you know who you are, why you do the things you do and how you impact yourself and the people around you, you can make changes as needed and lead a much more fulfilling and emotionally healthy life. This will nurture mindful kids!
Being positive and having a positive attitude unlocks roadblocks and blasts any and all obstacles that life or others may throw at you. The ability to find the silver lining in every cloud is an empowering feeling.
6. Repeat Positive Affirmations
Having affirmations up your sleeve can help readjust your mindset, empower your thoughts, and therefore change behaviors, especially those that are self-defeating.
7. Love yourself
You can’t see your self-worth unless you’ve learned to love yourself as you are. It’s then you will find yourself able to love others.
Points #5,6,7 all instill a positive mindset atmosphere and children will place their focus on their potential.
- Own Your Flaws
When you recognize your flaws, you can work on them, and this is how you grow. Not one of us is perfect and part of moving forward is understanding that and owning those flaws. Your kids will learn to strive to improve themselves and be accepting of their imperfections.
9. Positive self-talk
Stop putting yourself down, and instead lift yourself up with positive self-talk. Congratulate yourself on your success, let yourself know that you are great and remind yourself often of your own value. The kids will be less critical of themselves.
- Learn to Say “No”
You don’t have to commit to absolutely everything just because someone has asked you to. It’s up to you to know your limits, set boundaries, and enforce them. Saying “No” doesn’t mean you’re a bad person and it doesn’t mean the world is going to end. It just means you an empowered person who has the confidence to say no to something that they don’t have time for. Your kids will understand the importance of setting boundaries.
As you can see, the investment you put towards your own self-empowerment extends to your children, and it sets the foundation for establishing their healthy mindset to last their lifespan!
Call to Action: What 3 habits can you pursue to empower yourself and your kids?